Posted by: raisingmustardseeds | February 26, 2007

Go Forth and Multiply! Part 2 (Warning – Very long!)

(I should have added in my last post that I am not trying to force my beliefs onto anyone.  I’m just sharing my personal journey.)  Alright, now that that’s out of the way….

As I was saying in my previous post, even in the midst of postpartum haze, I continued to have this overwhelming desire to have more kids! 

Now, when one gets to the stage where one has 4 kids, (or 3 for that matter) people ask questions.  It’s simply unavoidable.  The question? – “So, are you done?”  Well, back in September I probably would’ve said yes.  But, now I was humming and hawwing. 

At first, I attributed this desire to simply being on a hormonal high – after all, I’d just birthed my baby at home, unmedicated, we hit the books after a one-week break, I mean – I was wonder woman! hahaha.  But all kidding aside, I quickly realized it was more than that.  It was a God-given desire.  I shared with a friend that to my great surprise, I really didn’t feel “done”, and she said to me, “well, if you’re totally sleep deprived, and you’re wanting more babies, you’re definitely NOT done.”

In the meantime, I searched scripture & I prayed.  I also asked God to give me the words, to be patient and wait for the right time to bring it up with my husband.  I finally plucked up enough courage to talk about it again.  I shared with him what I felt God was saying to me.  That God was the one who opened and closed wombs.  That we were to surrender this area of our lives to Him.  At the same time, I acknowledged the spiritual headship God had put in place for me, and that ultimately, I needed to submit to that authority. 

I admitted that I didn’t have all the answers – I didn’t know whether that meant we were going to have 16 children(!!), maybe God would decide that 4 is the perfect number for our family.  All I knew was that I needed to say to Him: “Lord I give you full control.  Let your will be done, 4 or 16, or whatever, I will take however many You will bless us with.”

Having said what I needed to say, I asked my husband to promise me that he’d pray about it and seek God’s will in this matter.  On my part, I promised that 1) I wouldn’t pester him about it, and 2) I would pray for peace in whatever decision he came to, (on the condition that he kept his end of the deal!)

Well, to keep a long story from getting too much longer, I’m excited to say that we are now on the same page!  It’s a page that makes us a little light-headed and feel out-of-control.  A page that makes us excited for the future.  A page that requires us to put human logic aside, and put our faith and hope in Him alone.

Here’s another verse that I stumbled upon that was instrumental in changing my views on children:

Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his.  And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring.  So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth.   Malachi 2:15 (highlight – my emphasis)

God’s purpose for giving us children is so that He can have more vessels on earth to house His life. He is looking for families to pass on kingdom truths.  He’s building His army! 

Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD,
the fruit of the womb a reward.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior
are the children of one’s youth.


Blessed is the man
who fills his quiver with them!
He shall not be put to shame
when he speaks with his enemies in the gate. Psalm 127:3-5

Boy, when I started the original post, I didn’t realize it would get this long.  I must have my father’s gene for long sermons. 


  1. The Lord seems to soften my heart with having more children every time I have another. And my husband and I come back to the same thought process…. “who are we to prevent the Lord from being Lord in our lives?”
    Jesus has done and provided for more than we could ever have done on our own, and has done it all beyond our wildest imaginations. We want God to have freedom to do as He pleases, and to be able to say, at the end of our lives, that we lived a life of faith, extraordinary faith.
    We have 6 children…. 5 with us, and 1 in heaven. And although there are times where we struggle with our decision to relinquish control, our ultimate desire is to live what we believe… that God is in control and we trust Him.
    Thank you for sharing your feelings.

  2. Thank you Steph. It’s always great to hear other couples who are on this exciting journey as well. May God be glorified in your lives as you continue to put your trust in Him.

  3. I just wanted to thank you for sharing. My eldest daughter is twelve and has asked me several time why God wanted was concerned with man populating the earth. I had a long, involved answer for her, but after reading your story I think it will help me answer her better in a way she can understand. I’m a mother of 3 with two girls and one boy. I believe being a parent is the hardest job in this world and perhaps the highest calling as well. I left home at a very young age and became a mother only a few years later. I’ve struggled terribly with parenting, but God has been gracious to me and my family and always brings our way exactly what we need. I thank you for the role you play in the body of Christ. God bless!

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